Why all the hate?
A friend once told me this really heart breaking story about how he was hated on by his mom because his mom was 'fair skinned' and he was 'dark skinned'......
The mother decides to go shopping one day. This is way way back in the days when there were very few migrant Muslims in North America. She is fair skinned and he is dark skinned. She is ashamed of having him around her and doesn’t want to be seen with him. She parks the car, puts her little child in the shopping cart, enters the store and leaves the cart with the kid in it by the entrance because she doesn’t want to be associated with the dark skinned little innocent kid. She finishes her shopping and picks up the kid at the entrance and carries on with her life.
Throughout his life, he was always made to feel inferior. The kid had turned out like his dad and he was hated because of that and even beaten up countless times. She was obsessed with her skin color and didn’t even want to be seen with her dark skinned husband. She was earning a six-digit figure salary per annum.
Yeah…So Why all the hate? Just because a child is not ‘fair or white skinned’ doesn’t give a parent any right to treat a child with contempt and animosity. I’ve seen it many times how parents have a sad look on their face because their child is dark skinned and not as white as the other person’s kid.
Islam is a colorless religion. Allah does not decide a person’s fate because of their skin color in this world. Those who will enter paradise, their faces will be shining and handsome and those who will enter the hell fire, their faces will be devoid of any light and will be horrible looking.
I wanted to write up a bit more on this topic …Like at marriage time how people make decisions based on skin color and even like when Desi people see fair skinned kids and how they react with them and how they react when they see dark skinned kids….… but I’m just soo busy with stuffs…So I’ll drop it here….
Have you been hated on by your parents or relatives because of your skin color? Do you think that is prevalent in the Desi community in particular and Muslims in general? Do you think parents feel inferior because their child is not as cute as the other kid?
The mother decides to go shopping one day. This is way way back in the days when there were very few migrant Muslims in North America. She is fair skinned and he is dark skinned. She is ashamed of having him around her and doesn’t want to be seen with him. She parks the car, puts her little child in the shopping cart, enters the store and leaves the cart with the kid in it by the entrance because she doesn’t want to be associated with the dark skinned little innocent kid. She finishes her shopping and picks up the kid at the entrance and carries on with her life.
Throughout his life, he was always made to feel inferior. The kid had turned out like his dad and he was hated because of that and even beaten up countless times. She was obsessed with her skin color and didn’t even want to be seen with her dark skinned husband. She was earning a six-digit figure salary per annum.
Yeah…So Why all the hate? Just because a child is not ‘fair or white skinned’ doesn’t give a parent any right to treat a child with contempt and animosity. I’ve seen it many times how parents have a sad look on their face because their child is dark skinned and not as white as the other person’s kid.
Islam is a colorless religion. Allah does not decide a person’s fate because of their skin color in this world. Those who will enter paradise, their faces will be shining and handsome and those who will enter the hell fire, their faces will be devoid of any light and will be horrible looking.
I wanted to write up a bit more on this topic …Like at marriage time how people make decisions based on skin color and even like when Desi people see fair skinned kids and how they react with them and how they react when they see dark skinned kids….… but I’m just soo busy with stuffs…So I’ll drop it here….
Have you been hated on by your parents or relatives because of your skin color? Do you think that is prevalent in the Desi community in particular and Muslims in general? Do you think parents feel inferior because their child is not as cute as the other kid?
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"Have you been hated on by your parents or relatives because of your skin color? Do you think that is prevalent in the Desi community in particular and Muslims in general? Do you think parents feel inferior because their child is not as cute as the other kid?"
Yes...its sad but they do. Actually the last question leaves me wondering...some parents get really deluded with their kids...and u know leave them and say omg my kids are perfect...but I've seen that whole skin colour idealogy a lot. Pretty stupid coming from Muslims.
Salamu Alaikum
Shaikh - I was finally able to read your blog. Bro, you are the coolest Maulana ever, oh man. Love the pics of the kids (hope the PS is working now!)
Duas please
Salams
Mashallah a very intresting blog. Provided some amusement for me during Online Arabic course break, lol. Nice pics, and yeh, damn right about the roads here in UK!
It truly is sad that Muslims do this; the young “victims” tend to carry it inside all their lives, buried in the memories that hurt. It can be forgotten by some, but it doesn’t just disappear.
And I agree with bro Ahmed, it was nice to read this blog during our online break. I wanted to comment before, but it was late and I wanted to sleep since it was night for me. Can’t wait to read the next post…
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Ma sha' Allah, a sheikh with a blog, seems interesting.
Ideas...*lightbulb*
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